Do you feel like your marriage has become a power struggle?
Do you find yourself keeping score of who's done more?
It's a couple weeks past Valentine's Day, a day in which we're
to celebrate our significant other. But if you're like many worn out,
over-scheduled business owners, entrepreneurs, and professionals,
it's just another day of pressure to perform somehow--find the
perfect gift, say the sappy sentiment, or display a unique gesture of love.
You might find yourself stretched so thin with your responsibilities, of
being the perfect spouse, parent, business owner, that you have little
energy left to create a healthy marriage.
Please answer the following:
1) Do you often feel defensive with your spouse?
2) Do you resent your spouse and feel that your destiny is
controlled by him/her?
3) Do you often engage in petty arguments with your spouse,
in order to prove you're right and/or "not wrong"?
To honestly communicate with your spouse is absolutely critical
if you want to have harmony in the relationship. But it's very
scary, isn't it?
We will often keep ourselves busy to the point of exhaustion
to avoid having those honest, real & tough conversations. We
don't want to hurt their feelings. But until we are willing to do
just that and pierce the resentment we are feeling, we are on a
slippery slope with our marriage's longevity, at least a HAPPY
What is needed? A mindset shift. Loving someone is not so
much a feeling, but an attitude. Feelings change so quickly and
sporadically that if you feel you're no longer in love with someone
because you might be feeling angry and resentful, you might
reconsider if this is really true.
Work on clearing out the resentment that you have created based
on your interpretation and perception of events, not necessarily based on
how THEY actually treat you.
Example: You may blame your spouse for not supporting you with
going back to school or any kind of investment in yourself. But in reality,
YOU decided subconsciously you didn't feel worthy of it, and you assumed
they swayed your decision by discouraging you to do it. Make sense?
People will often mirror back to us something we need to learn about
If we want to live in harmony, we will need to do the work of looking
within which requires a great deal of humility and courage.
I can help you with this! My marriage isn't perfect, and yes, it sometimes
feels like a roller coaster of emotion. But it's real and authentic, and I can
say that I'm happy with who I am inside the relationship.
Let's continue this discussion. Get an action plan for your fulfillment and
harmony. Join me March 8th
To Your Harmony,