Meeting People Where They Are

Angie Monko - Friday, April 12, 2013
As a coach, it is important for me to meet people where they are at.  People are very
quick to jump over their uncomfortable feelings, and I am especially a culprit of this.
I understand we want to think in terms of positivity because, bottom line, it is our
positive thinking that attracts pleasant circumstances in our lives. It is our positive
thinking, our self esteem, to care enough about feeling good, that gives us the
inspiration to take action on things that perpetuate our feeling good.

However, we cannot access that good feeling state UNTIL we clear out the debris
of limiting belief systems.  So we have to be in our gunk for a while. A good friend
helped me to realize that, although I meet people where they are at, I may get
impatient with their pain and want them to move out of it quickly, probably because
I’m impatient with my own pain.  I process it quickly so as not to hurt myself more
than necessary.

Everyone process pain at different speeds and so I need to meet them again and
again and again if necessary.  I need to persist with them, see beyond their pain so
they can eventually see beyond it. I am the Go-Getter.  My philosophy is learn the
lesson and move on.  It is like walking down into people’s basements, where I see
all of their stuff, and some of it is very old, and it has developed a stench and it is
moldy and has cobwebs and grimy residue all over it (the gunk).

So I walk down once, acknowledge their stuff, and then I am ready to walk back
upstairs into the light.  But they seem to have super glue on their feet and want to
keep going back down.  So I need to be willing to get my exercise and keep walking
up and down those steps as many times as needed until THEY wear out.
This allows me to develop my patience and empathy muscles, both feminine parts
of me.  It teaches me to be more patient with myself as well.

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God Bless,

Angie Monko
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Virginia commented on 23-Sep-2014 01:39 PM
And sometimes, when we are willing to sit there in the damp, smelly basement and just listen to the importance attached to each one of those old, worn out, moldy pieces of "junk," we are able to glimpse the gifts that each of those worn-out bits and pieces of life have to offer. As we patiently find ways to appreciate those unexamined moments, we can dust them off, clean them up and offer them to others as life-lessons well-learned.
Angie Monko commented on 23-Sep-2014 01:39 PM
This is very true, Virginia. Very good point!

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