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One of the very first coaches I ever spoke to, over 15 years ago
asked me this from the very start of our conversation, "How safe
do you feel in the Universe?"
My answer was, "Not very." Over the years, my feelings of
safety have fluctuated between feeling very unsafe to very safe,
depending on current circumstances.
As a highly sensitive person (HSP), it's a common feeling to
feel unsafe because we feel emotionally vulnerable and unprotected.
If an HSP grew up in an environment where his/her sensitivities were
valued, appreciated and understood, life can feel safe indeed. Maybe
our parents were also sensitive and aware of the subtle energies of
Though probably more common is feeling misunderstood, a stranger
in a strange land where most people around us don't have nearly
as rich of an inner life.
Just so I am clear. I'm not here to propose that HSP's are better than
the other 80% of the population who don't share the more sensitive nervous
system that we HSP's have.
My main message is communicate that we ARE different, but that it's
a "normal" different. And there are plenty of us out there (20% of the
globe). My hope is that you will appreciate yourself for who you are.
My intention is create a movement in which HSP's become AWARE
that they are highly sensitive, appreciate themselves at a deep core
level, and begin taking a more vocal stand for themselves and their
Why is this so important? Our society needs us. It needs the harmony
and gentleness we can provide because we're more in touch with this
feminine side of us.
Our society needs a balancing of feminine and masculine energies.
We have all been conditioned to present more masculine tendencies,
such as speaking, seeking accomplishments, acquiring more stuff, taking
control, reaching goals, etc.
I have a lot of this masculine, dominant personality myself because I
thought I was more valuable if I was accomplishing tasks. And I do
appreciate this "get 'er done" approach to life at times. But it's not the
I guess I'm getting older and wiser, dare I say. :) Grief has a way of
hitting you between the eyes and getting you to wake up, if you're
going to wake up.
I see a need to bring more of my feminine nurturing side to the
table to balance out my driven self. I can be VERY nurturing to people,
especially my clients, but I could use some help in the area of being
"motherly" to my family members.
Maybe this is because I feel they already ask a lot of me.....? I remember
when Maddie would get real upset about something and have a mini
panic attack and blame me for how she was feeling.
I had a hard time being compassionate during those times. I'd want to
say, "Your feelings are yours. Take responsibility for them and stop
And although this is true, I could have helped her to put her fighting
gloves away by just being with her in her pain and hugging her. Just
because she blamed me didn't mean I had to take on that blame.
I could listen more...be present more...to bring out more of my feminine
energy, and so can you.
And we can nurture others much better when we feel safe and protected
ourselves first. How do we do that? We have to create a feeling of safety
within and for ourselves, through energy management and protection.
Your next step is to come to the Frontier to Your Freedom this Tuesday
at 6:30pm at Olive Oils & More in Edwardsville, IL.
The ultimate transformation that I promise is for you to feel safe to be
YOU. Take a stand for yourself first so you can more meaningfully help
others in a way that won't wear you out.
You know how important this is to you as an HSP, to help others grow
and be their best. See you Tuesday!