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Do you avoid THEIR pain? (Video)

Angie Monko - Tuesday, October 23, 2018

Check out today's video here!

I see her hair thinning, her face, hands and feet swollen....
her body wasting away...I want to run and hide. It shouldn't be
this way.

As I walked into the hospital yesterday to see my daughter,
Maddie, my stomach knotted up.  Apparently, she'd started
to have swelling on Sunday. I know how much she hates to 
feel bloated, especially in her face.

But she didn't even seem to care about that. Right now, she
is only focused on breathing and taking one moment at a time.

Maddie (22) has cystic fibrosis.  And she is going through the
worst exacerbation she's ever had. And we are feeling it with her.

As a highly sensitive person (HSP), I can see how situations 
like this have made me want to avoid life.  Her pain reflects 
back to me my own pain, and how little I want to deal with it.

In addition, being highly intuitive and empathic as most HSP's
are, I FEEL all of her pain. The natural inclination is to avoid it.

Do you ever notice how we avoid people who reflect back a 
lot of pain and negative emotion?  Could it be that we aren't
comfortable with OUR OWN pain?  

When I hear Maddie cry or whine, it triggers me back to a time
when my own mom helplessly cried. It makes me feel powerless
to do anything to change the situation.  

As an HSP, I want to protect my heart from further pain and 
uncomfortable feelings like sadness and disappointment.

What can we do about this? We can first be aware of what WE
are feeling. Breathe into that. Reassure ourselves we are safe.

Second, we can tap on the feelings if we so desire (tapping
is an energy clearing technique I love to use to help calm me).

This allows us to be present with the moment and really WITH
someone. That's exactly what I did last night before entering
Maddie's room.

It allowed me to be with her, kind, loving and not in my own 
head about how things should somehow be different.  IS that
true? 

The truth is things should actually be as they are right now.  

This situation is causing me to re-evaluate my life priorities and
what is truly important.  It's helping me to stop being as selfish.

As an HSP, the tendency is to over-protect so much that we 
blow things up in our mind and tell ourselves we will be over-
stimulated by future events and can't handle things.

When I learn to be in the present moment, this isn't a problem.

For today, I have the courage to hope that things are 
improving with Maddie despite appearances. It's okay to desire.

AND I also have the peace of knowing that all is well despite
appearances.

Courageously,

Angie Monkp

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Friday if you want to register ASAP.

Comments
Dana Rich commented on 23-Oct-2018 06:19 PM
Our family is praying for Maddie and your family. I can't imagine the pain of seeing a loved one so ill. We are so grateful to you for your wonderful example. <3 <3 <3
Leslie commented on 24-Oct-2018 04:41 AM
Maddie and your family are in our prayers, Angie. Thinking of you all, with love <3
Anonymous commented on 24-Oct-2018 07:28 AM
Praying for all of you!

Becky


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