Are Your Desires Trustworthy?

Angie Monko - Saturday, September 01, 2012
Why is it that some days you feel like crawling into a cocoon and hiding?

Right now it's raining outside, and I'm sitting on my back porch, inhaling
the fresh scent of rain.  It's refreshing and cleansing. Life feels difficult on
some days, huh?  It has felt heavy for me lately.  I have had the desire to
be alone with myself, to reconnect with my Higher Self.  So I've been
listening and taking it slower, even if this means saying NO to others'
invitations. As long as I'm not saying no with the intention of hurting others
or myself then I see it as solid guidance. 

A mentor told me the other day that I need to guard or protect my time and
not feel guilty about it.  Do you struggle with trying to fit everything into
your life and feel like you are doing enough?  I know I do.  I wish I could
tell you I have this figured out, but I don't just yet. The good news is one of
my strengths is perseverance.

I don't give up.  I will continue to seek solutions by asking the right questions,
"How can I strike a healthy balance of self-love and self-care and care and
serve others at the same time?"  I could follow my desires.  They give me
an indication of which direction to go. Can my desires be trusted though?
What if they lead me in a direction that  hurts me?  For example, what if I
desire to drink wine and eat sugary foods excessively, or have an affair, or
talk cruelly to my kids?

So it doesn't make sense to follow my desires 100% of the time, does it?
Perhaps not.  Does it make sense to observe my desires and ask, "What is
my desire trying to teach me about myself?"  I think so. So let's say I have a
desire to eat chocolate chip cookies and milk every evening.  As long as I'm
really enjoying them and I don't have diabetes and it's not hurting me, then all
is well.  However, let's say I feel compelled to reward myself with the cookies
and feel out of control about my choice.

I feel guilty and weak-minded after partaking in the dessert. What message is
this desire sending me?  Maybe it's telling me that I need more connection in
my relationships, more love and sweetness and kindness, and that I don't
need that from dessert.  Or maybe it's teaching me that food isn't bad; it's my
thinking and how I assign meaning to the food that causes the guilt and needs
to be adjusted. So what are your desires trying to teach you, especially your
apparently "unhealthy" ones?  Ask the part of you what you're meant to learn. 

Maybe you're supposed to be more grateful and live in the moment. Get quiet
and listen.  You will know.  And once you do, ask the next question, "What is the
next right step I should take to line up with this teaching?"  In the food example,
perhaps the next right step is to have a loving conversation with someone you
care about. Your desires aren't bad.  They just are.  And they are trying to teach
you something, give you a red flag, a wake up call.  You just have to be willing
to listen....

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To Your Peace,

Angie Monko
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