Are you organized, not rigid (video)?

Angie Monko - Tuesday, July 03, 2018

This is the third in a series of 9 articles and videos 
in which I want to dive deeper with you about what it 
means to be a Worthy Self-Advocate (WSA).

Watch Video Here

The structure you can expect:

1) Definition of WSA (as a reminder).
2) Name the attribute we’re working on for that week,
        in this case, Organized, Not Rigid.
3) Examples of the extreme of one side, Rigidly Organized.
4) Examples of the extreme of the other side, No Structure.
5) Example of WSA actions, somewhere in between.

So what is a Worthy Self-Advocate (WSA)? 
This is my term for someone who does his/her best to
relate to themselves and others with courage, authenticity
and kindness.

The WSA gives herself the benefit of the doubt, not to
justify selfish choices, but to remind her of her own innate
worth.  They know they are enough.

This week let’s talk about the attribute of Organized,
not Rigid (the ideal practice of the WSA).

On one end of a continuum lies the extreme of
Being Rigidly Organized. Do you see yourself in these 

One Extreme: My physical environment (including my 
home, car, computer and phone files) is rigidly organized. 
It takes a lot of my energy and activity to maintain my 
environment because I have to control others' behavior to 
maintain it.

a. My obsessive/compulsive need for cleanliness and

        organization is a distraction that becomes more
        important than getting more challenging, higher-priority 
        things done first.

b. Keeping the house clean takes priority over spending
        quality time with my family.
c. Needing my environment to look a certain way
        (like checking emails to keep a clean inbox or 
        checking Facebook for current happenings) prevents
        me from doing income-producing activities first
        because these other things are the path of least 

On the other end of the continuum lies the extreme of
No Structure. Do you see yourself in these examples?

Other Extreme: I have little or no structure or organization
in my environment, which drains my energy because I feel 
guilty about my disorganization and lack of taking action. 
My thinking and feeling that I’m wrong and guilty exhaust me.

a. I ignore my email inbox.
b. My business files are scattered and disorganized.
c. I have few systems in place for business follow-up
        or to manage my life in general.
d. My environment is cluttered and chaotic (i.e., laundry
        has piled up, dishes are in the sink, papers, magazines
        and mail are here and there).
e. I hoard things and have a difficult time throwing 
        them away because I may need them some day.

Both ends of the continuum leave us feeling insecure.

Somewhere in the middle of the extremes lies the WSA attribute
of Organized, not Rigid. This is the direction we want to take.

WSA Activities:

a. I gracefully maintain a well-organized environment 
        without having to rigidly control it and exhaust myself. 
       I’m really not attached to how it looks and would be 
       okay no matter.
b. People (including myself) feel safe, relaxed and 
        comfortable in my space because it’s tidy, but not 
        perfect, and my energy conveys love and acceptance
        of others.
c. I have a simple, well-organized system/process for
        recording potential client, client and referral partner
        conversations and following up.
d. My computer and paper files are organized and 

Do you want to confidently and passionately live life on
your terms without feeling guilty and selfish?  Do you want
to have the most fun and meaningful experience of life and
inspire others to do the same?

By becoming loyal to YOU, despite what others do or say,
you get to live life inspired by your own inner wisdom, not
temporarily motivated by fleeting desires for more stuff and
others’ approval of you.

If that sounds good to you, come to our July 12 Frontier
To Freedom workshop.  We have a few seats left.

I’d really like you to be there.


Angie Monko

P.S.: Your Freedom begins when you rise up, speak
up, and show up
 for yourself!  Is this your time

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